Five tips for working with special needs parents (plus a bonus!)

I was asked a few years ago by one of my daughter’s previous teachers for some tips for those who teach and work with our special needs children. Since then, many have shared this with other educators, therapists and administrators. Though this isn’t a typical post at TPIL, I thought it was worth sharing. I’d […]

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Magical, shmagical

I don’t know what it is about the last two decades in American parenthood but someone needs to raise the white flag and it might as well be me. Part of the problem might be the prominence of social media or the persistent need to document every single thing a child does but man it’s […]

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Ode to music teachers everywhere

I would make a terrible motivational speaker for the simple fact that they often inspire others with words like “The sky is the limit!” or “No dream is too big!” and I find myself rolling my eyes and muttering “Good luck with that.” Not that my life is perceptibly awful or I feel like a […]

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Life hacks for new grads.

I met Teresa my junior year of high school while waiting in the cafeteria. She invited me to sit with her and since I had no friends who had lunch that period, I accepted. She had blond hair, a mischievous smile and was one of the friendliest people I had ever met. So, for the […]

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Middle school: basically Dante’s 7th circle…

Recently, I overheard three teenage girls talking and their entire conversation was comprised of steadily putting down other girls in their peer group. One after another, I heard the negative comments: Her hair is too frizzy. Why doesn’t she stop blow drying it? I can’t stand being around her. She wears the weirdest clothes. I […]

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Five friends every mom needs

When I was less than four feet tall, I collected stickers and dolls that I would line up on a bookshelf and kiss every night–the dolls, not the stickers. Now that I am an impressive 5’ 4”, I collect friends that come to sit at my kitchen table.  In the last seventeen years while living in […]

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Skiing vs. Marriage

My husband’s dream ever since we started popping out babies was to have our entire family on the slopes. “A family that skis together stays together” was his burning mantra. Up until this year I had ample excuses to send him and our oldest up the hill together for some father-daughter bonding time: “I can’t […]

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Trailer parks and tears

For much of my adolescent years I resided in a trailer park with a “Dallas” theme—the soap opera, not the state. We lived on J.R. Drive and the streets surrounding ours were: Knot’s Landing, Ewing Drive and Cattleman’s Circle. The south embraces themes, y’all. Seriously though, I would give anything to have been at the […]

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Cleaning house

One of the biggest complaints I hear from parents (right after sleep deprivation) is “How do you clean a house when tornadic children are constantly undoing all your work?” I confess that even now with our youngest being eight, at times our house looks like a frat. party just exploded and had a baby. I […]

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Lessons from Forty

This past year, I turned an age that rhymes with “borty” and I am not ashamed. At all. Some women (and men) struggle with revealing or looking their age and I want wear a t-shirt that shouts: “I earned it, man! See this somewhat squishy belly? It grew four children! See these malleable arms? They […]

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