How to Approach Someone with a Disability 101

I have an immediate distrust for people who either say they loved pregnancy or middle school. As for the latter, tweens/teens that age are constantly comparing and contrasting themselves to those around them. Am I better looking or less popular than him? Are my shoes cuter or uglier?  The daily calculating, measuring and assigning worth […]

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Remembering

Her name was Louise. Ms. Louise. I never even learned her last name. She was a friend of my grandmother’s and during my week-long summer visits, we would visit all of her older woman friends. Friends with amazing names like Cleo, Myrtle and Ida Mae Stacy.  Louise was very old (to me, as an eight […]

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Hit the road, Jack

I am not an expert at many tasks. My desk is in constant clutter, my fashion sense leaves much to be desired, and my ability to decorate cakes is on par with a 7-year-old. But traveling with children? Solo? For thousands of miles? For a month? I’ve got you covered, baby. Just call me the […]

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Five tips for working with special needs parents (plus a bonus!)

I was asked a few years ago by one of my daughter’s previous teachers for some tips for those who teach and work with our special needs children. Since then, many have shared this with other educators, therapists and administrators. Though this isn’t a typical post at TPIL, I thought it was worth sharing. I’d […]

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Magical, shmagical

I don’t know what it is about the last two decades in American parenthood but someone needs to raise the white flag and it might as well be me. Part of the problem might be the prominence of social media or the persistent need to document every single thing a child does but man it’s […]

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Ode to music teachers everywhere

I would make a terrible motivational speaker for the simple fact that they often inspire others with words like “The sky is the limit!” or “No dream is too big!” and I find myself rolling my eyes and muttering “Good luck with that.” Not that my life is perceptibly awful or I feel like a […]

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Top ten ways to be a miserable mother

I know. Quite the ironic title for a “Mother’s Day” post. Mother’s Day is about honoring the women in our lives who have mentored, guided, raised and loved us. I have many, many women whom, without them, I would be less intelligent, compassionate, kind, efficient and aware of my blessings. But while we are honoring […]

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Life hacks for new grads.

I met Teresa my junior year of high school while waiting in the cafeteria. She invited me to sit with her and since I had no friends who had lunch that period, I accepted. She had blond hair, a mischievous smile and was one of the friendliest people I had ever met. So, for the […]

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How to Birthday

Once a year, we humans find a reason to celebrate the simple fact that we showed up. And we don’t just celebrate—we do it with a capital C, sprinkle it with a pound of hand-cut confetti and Instagram/Facebook it all up in yo’ face. When our oldest (hereafter called “Test Kid”) was little, I admit […]

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